Learn to detach with the Gray Rock Method
Dealing with narcissistic people (self-serving people who lack empathy and have an inflated sense of their own importance) can be maddening. It is usually best to avoid narcissists altogether, if you can. If you can’t escape them – perhaps because you have to work with one or cooperate with one in your family – it can be very tempting to argue with them, criticise them, and scream, ‘What’s wrong with you?’ However, you will never win, so it’s best you hold your tongue when you are tempted to fight them.
What is the Gray Rock Method?
The intention of the Grey Rock method is that you embody all the thrill and personality of a grey rock. If successful, the emotionally unbalanced person will lose all interest in you. It’s not the No Contact method; you allow contact with them but only give them boring, unsatisfying responses so as to not fuel their ego. These people crave drama in some form, and the Gray Rock Method retrains their brain to expect that you won’t fulfil this desire.
This method can be used to deal with malignant narcissists and psychopaths, but also attention-seeking people and drama queens. It can be used to break up a negative relationship or avoid becoming a target to these people in the first place.
Sadly, sometimes these narcissistic people can be people you have frequent, unavoidable contact with, like a colleague or boss, parents or family members, or a narcissistic ex with whom you must co-parent.
This strategy involves becoming the most boring and uninteresting person you can be when interacting with a manipulative person,”
Here are six tips to keep in mind if you’re considering this strategy.
1. Know when to use it (and when not to)
2. Offer nothing
3. Disengage and disconnect.
4. Keep necessary interactions short
5. Don’t tell them what you’re doing
6.Avoid diminishing yourself
