Monday, December 7, 2020

Be Happy... 😊



बहुत दिन बाद पकड़ में आई खुशी तो पूछा
कहाँ रहती हो आजकल ?
ज्यादा मिलती नहीं ?

"यही तो हूँ"
जवाब मिला।

बहुत भाव खाती हो खुशी
कुछ सीखो
अपनी बहन "परेशानी" से
हर दूसरे दिन आती है
हमसे मिलने।

आती तो मैं भी हूं
पर आप ध्यान नही देते।

"अच्छा"...
शिकायत होंठो पे थी कि
उसने टोक दिया बीच में.

मैं रहती हूँ कभी
आपकी बच्चे की
किलकारियो में,

कभी
रास्ते मे मिल जाती हूँ
एक दोस्त के रूप में,

कभी
एक अच्छी फिल्म
देखने में,

कभी
गुम कर मिली हुई
किसी चीज़ में,

कभी
घरवालों की परवाह में,

कभी
मानसून की
पहली बारिश में

कभी
कोई गाना सुनने में

दरअसल
थोड़ा- थोड़ा बाँट देती हूँ
खुद को
छोटे छोटे पलों में
उनके अहसासों में

लगता है चश्मे का नंबर
बढ़ गया है आपका,
सिर्फ बड़ी चीज़ो में ही
ढूंढते हो मुझे

खैर...
अब तो पता मालूम
हो गया ना मेरा...
ढूंढ लेना मुझे आसानी से अब छोटी छोटी बातों में...
Be Happy... 😊


Monday, November 30, 2020

The Gray Rock Method

 


Learn to detach with the Gray Rock Method

Dealing with narcissistic people (self-serving people who lack empathy and have an inflated sense of their own importance) can be maddening. It is usually best to avoid narcissists altogether, if you can. If you can’t escape them – perhaps because you have to work with one or cooperate with one in your family – it can be very tempting to argue with them, criticise them, and scream, ‘What’s wrong with you?’ However, you will never win, so it’s best you hold your tongue when you are tempted to fight them.

What is the Gray Rock Method?

The intention of the Grey Rock method is that you embody all the thrill and personality of a grey rock. If successful, the emotionally unbalanced person will lose all interest in you. It’s not the No Contact method; you allow contact with them but only give them boring, unsatisfying responses so as to not fuel their ego. These people crave drama in some form, and the Gray Rock Method retrains their brain to expect that you won’t fulfil this desire.

This method can be used to deal with malignant narcissists and psychopaths, but also attention-seeking people and drama queens. It can be used to break up a negative relationship or avoid becoming a target to these people in the first place.

Sadly, sometimes these narcissistic people can be people you have frequent, unavoidable contact with, like a colleague or boss, parents or family members, or a narcissistic ex with whom you must co-parent.

This strategy involves becoming the most boring and uninteresting person you can be when interacting with a manipulative person,”


Here are six tips to keep in mind if you’re considering this strategy.

1. Know when to use it (and when not to)
2. Offer nothing
3. Disengage and disconnect.
4. Keep necessary interactions short
5. Don’t tell them what you’re doing
6.Avoid diminishing yourself

Thursday, November 19, 2020

झाँसी की रानी


 होवे चुप इतिहास,

लगे सच्चाई को चाहे फाँसी
हो मदमाती विजय,
मिटा दे गोलों से चाहे झाँसी,

तेरा स्मारक तू ही होगी,
तू खुद अमिट निशानी थी
बुंदेले हरबोलों के मुँह
हमने सुनी कहानी थी,
खूब लड़ी मर्दानी
वह तो झाँसी वाली रानी थी

~ सुभद्राकुमारीचौहान

Friday, October 30, 2020

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)




Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) encourages people to embrace their thoughts and feelings rather than fighting or feeling guilty for them.


ACT in simple terms: it is a type of therapy that aims to help patients accept what is out of their control, and commit instead to actions that enrichen their lives.

It is "a unique empirically based psychological intervention that uses acceptance and mindfulness strategies, together with commitment and behavior change strategies, to increase #psychological #flexibility.”

The founder of ACT has also offered a definition of ACT in terms familiar to the psychology field:

“a psychological intervention based on modern behavioral psychology, including Relational Frame Theory, that applies mindfulness and acceptance processes, and commitment and behavior change processes, to the creation of psychological flexibility” (Hayes, “The Six Core Processes of ACT”).

Six core processes of ACT guide patients through therapy and provide a framework for developing psychological flexibility . These six core processes of ACT include the following:

1. Acceptance;
2. Cognitive Defusion;
3. Being Present;
4. Self as Context;
5. Values;
6. Committed Action.

We are not only what happens to us. We are the ones experiencing what happens to us.

Steven C. Hayes, a psychology professor at the University of Nevada, developed ACT in 1986 (Harris, 2011). Hayes disagreed that suffering and pain are to be avoided and buffered whenever possible. He saw suffering as an inevitable and essential part of being human, as well as a source of fulfillment when we do not flee from what scares us.

Tuesday, September 29, 2020

Big 5 Personality Traits


The differences between people’s personalities can be broken down in terms of five major traits—often called the “Big Five.” Each one reflects a key part of how a person thinks, feels, and behaves. The Big Five traits are:

Openness to experience (includes aspects such as intellectual curiosity and creative imagination)


Conscientiousness (organization, productiveness, responsibility)


Extroversion (sociability, assertiveness; its opposite is Introversion)


Agreeableness (compassion, respectfulness, trust in others)


Neuroticism (tendencies toward anxiety and depression)


Individual personalities are thought to feature each of these five broad traits to some degree. When the traits are measured, some people rate higher and others rate lower: Someone can be more conscientious and less agreeable than most people, for instance, while scoring about average on the other traits. These traits remain fairly stable during adulthood.


People can also differ on the more specific facets that make up each of the Big Five traits. A relatively extroverted person might be highly sociable but not especially assertive.


The five-factor model is widely used by personality researchers, but it is not the only model. A more recently introduced six-factor model known as HEXACO adds the factor of honesty-humility to the original five traits.


Contents -:


Measuring the Big Five


Why the Big Five Matter


Other Personality Tests


How the Big Five Personality Traits Are Measured


The Big Five traits are typically assessed using one of multiple questionnaires. While these tests vary in the exact terms they use for each trait, they essentially cover the same broad dimensions, providing high-to-low scores on each: openness to experience (also called open-mindedness or just openness), conscientiousness, extroversion (the reverse of which is introversion), agreeableness, and neuroticism (sometimes negative emotionality or emotional stability).


One test, the latest version of the Big Five Inventory, asks how much a person agrees or disagrees that he or she is someone who exemplifies various specific statements, such as:


“Is curious about many different things” (for openness, or open-mindedness)


“Is systematic, likes to keep things in order” (for conscientiousness)


“Is outgoing, sociable” (for extroversion)


“Is compassionate, has a soft heart” (for agreeableness)


“Is moody, has up and down mood swings” (for neuroticism, or negative emotionality)


Based on a person’s ratings for dozens of these statements (or fewer, for other tests), an average score can be calculated for each of the five traits.


What does your score on the Big Five tell you?


Scores on a Big Five questionnaire provide a sense of how low or high a person rates on a continuum for each trait. Comparing those scores to a large sample of test takers—as some online tests do—offers a picture of how open, conscientious, extroverted (or introverted), agreeable, and neurotic one is relative to others.


How were the Big Five traits determined?


Analyzing English words used to describe personality traits, researchers used statistical techniques to identify clusters of related characteristics. This led to a small number of overarching trait dimensions that personality psychologists have scientifically tested in large population samples.


Who developed the Big Five personality traits?

Do Big Five tests measure more specific traits?

Why the Big Five Personality Traits Are Important ?


The five-factor model not only helps people better understand how they compare to others and to put names to their characteristics. It’s also used to explore relationships between personality and many other life indicators. These include consequential outcomes such as physical health and well-being as well as success in social, academic, and professional contexts. Personality psychologists have observed reliable associations between how people rate on trait scales and how they fare or feel, on average, in various aspects of their lives.


What can Big Five scores tell us about other outcomes?
Quite a lot, at least in Western samples. There is reliable evidence, for example, that extroversion is associated with subjective well-being, neuroticism with lower work commitment, and agreeableness with religiousness. Certain traits have been linked to mortality risk. However, these are overall patterns and don’t mean that a trait necessarily causes any of these outcomes.


Can Big Five personality traits change?
Yes. While personality trait measures tend to be fairly consistent over short periods of time in adulthood, they do change over the course of a lifetime. There’s also reason to believe that deliberate personality change is possible.


The Big Five and Other Personality Tests

Various ways of representing major traits have been proposed, and personality researchers continue to disagree on the number of distinct characteristics that can be measured. The five-factor model dominates the rest, as far as psychologists are concerned, although multiple types of assessments exist to measure the five traits.


Outside of academic psychology, tests that aim to sort people into personality types—including the Myers-Briggs/MBTI and Enneagram—are highly popular, though many experts take issue with such tests on scientific grounds. The five-factor model has conceptual and empirical strengths that others lack.


How do Big Five tests compare to the Myers-Briggs?
For a number of reasons, many personality psychologists consider Big Five tests superior to the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator. These include concerns about the reliability of the types assigned by the Myers-Briggs and the validity of the test—though there is some overlap between its dimensions (which include extroversion-introversion) and the Big Five.


Do the Big Five capture personality types?
It depends on how strictly you define a “type.” Research indicates that for any given trait, people fall at various points along a continuum rather than fitting neatly into categories. While some identify wholeheartedly as a total extrovert or introvert, for example, there are many shades in between, and most of us would score somewhere in the middle.


Sunday, August 9, 2020

DBT - Wise Mind: Balancing Emotion and Reason (Part-5)



DBT - Wise Mind: Balancing Emotion and Reason - Are there times where you make impulsive decisions based on how you’re feeling in the moment? What about other times where you convince yourself that your feelings don’t matter and make decisions purely based on facts, what you “should do” or what is “right?” Who is the wisest person you know?

Think for a moment…. This is the person that you would go to for advice about a situation. The person who would help you balance the cold, hard fact with your feelings & the things that are most important to you as a person. What advice has this person given you in the past about things? What is it about them that makes you think they are “wise? Is this different than if they were “smart? What is “Wise Mind?” 

 In short, in DBT “Emotion Mind” refers to a state of mind where you make decisions based purely on your feelings and emotions. This may be yelling something hurtful out of anger, binging or purging food to change feelings of sadness and aloneness, or quitting something because you’re afraid of failure just to name a few examples. 

On the other hand, “Reasonable Mind” is the complete opposite. Many people believe they should operate in this state of mind where all decisions are made devoid of emotion and based purely on reason and logic. This mind state considers facts, rigid ideals and self judgments. For instance, you may ignore your feelings of anger at a friend who hurts you or reschedule your day because you “should” say yes when your mom asks you to do something. Wise Mind is the synthesis of these two opposites. Wise Mind means acting in a rational way that helps you accomplish your goals while still acknowledging and honoring your feelings.


Dialectical Behavior Therapy skills (D-E-A-R M-A-N DBT SubSkill) Part-4




What on earth is D-E-A-R M-A-N and how is it supposed to help you get what you want in relationships?


This mnemonic device was developed by Dr. Marsha Linehan as a component of Dialectical Behavior Therapy to help remind people of the basic skills involved in getting what you want in relationships in a healthy manner.

It is important in all of our relationships that we feel capable of communicating with others about our expectations in relationships.

Dialectical behavior therapy skills (DBT skills) offer tips for emotion regulation, distress tolerance, mindfulness, The Middle Path, and interpersonal effectiveness. DEAR MAN is a subskill of interpersonal effectiveness. You can use it to resolve a conflict or make a request in a respectful and effective way that maintains a relationship. “DEAR MAN” is an acronym, with each letter representing its own skill. As you study and implement these skills, you’ll find that having hard conversations becomes easier over time.

#Describe the situation in a simple way. State only the facts in your description. At this point, you’re not expressing your feelings or asking for anything. You’re setting up for the conversation using facts.


#Express how you’re feeling using “I” statements. An “I” statement means that you’re taking accountability and prevents the other person from going into defense mode.


#Assert by either asking for your need or saying no firmly (depending on the situation). To “assert” your needs means that you are asking for what you want in a clear and strong way. Don’t beat around the bush or don’t allude to what you want.


#Reinforce by making sure that the other person knows why they should grant your request.


(stay) #Mindful. Try not to become distracted by things going on around you. Instead, do your best to stay focused on the conversation. If the person you’re talking to is acting defensive, try to keep the conversation on course.


#Appear #Confident. Regardless of how you feel on the inside, present yourself as though you feel confident. Do this by keeping your head up, standing or sitting up straight, making direct eye contact, and speaking loudly and clearly.


#Negotiate. Remember that you aren’t demanding anything, you’re asking for something. If the person you’re speaking with isn’t on board with your request, remember the phrase “give to get”. You might need to alter your request to make it more appealing to the other person. Have a conversation about how you might be able to resolve the problem together. In the end, you’ll be able to come to a solution that works for both of you.


Read about it & Practice on daily basis !! See the magic ❤️❤️


Saturday, August 8, 2020

DBT Skill Willingness (Part-3)

 



DBT Skill #Willingness is the skill of realizing you are part of and connected to the rest of the universe.

By Brent Menninger

1. Willingness = DOING JUST WHAT IS NEEDED in each situation, in an unpretentious way. A wonderful outcome of Willingness is Effectiveness.

2. Willingness = listening very closely to your WISE MIND, acting from your inner self.

3. Willingness = ALLOWING into awareness your connection to the universe, to the earth, to the floor you are standing on, to the chair you are sitting on, to the person you are talking to.

4. Choose WILLINGNESS (over) WILLFULNESS


A) Willfulness is SITTING ON YOUR HANDS when action is needed, refusing to make changes that are needed.

B) Willfulness is GIVING UP.

C) Willfulness is the OPPOSITE OF 'DOING WHAT WORKS,' being effective.

D) Willfulness is trying to FIX every situation.

E) Willfulness is REFUSING TO TOLERATE the moment.

F) Replace WILLFULNESS with WILLINGNESS


Willingness versus Willfulness

Willingness is the skill of realizing you are part of and connected to the rest of the universe. Willingness is playing your part, as best you can, with what you have, at this point in time. Willingness is a commitment to actively participate in your part of the cosmic process and allow the world to be what it is, no matter what happens. Willingness is bringing the attitude of full participation to your life.

Willfulness is disconnecting from your Wise Mind and the opposite of willingness. If willingness is realizing you are a part of and connected to life, willfulness is denying reality, refusing to be part of the cosmic process, or giving up hope. Willfulness is saying no to life itself, saying no to reality, and saying no to what is. If you experience willfulness, turn your mind back to Radical Acceptance.

Alacrity can readiness and eagerness; alacrity is a special kind of willingness that is characterized by cheerfulness. This is willingness as joyous activity.

Metaphors for willingness and willfulness
Hitting baseballs from a pitching machine is a metaphor for willingness. Like the pitching machine keeps throwing balls at you, life throws reality at you. You need to keep your eye on the ball to hit it and swing. As each ball comes, focus on giving it your best shot. Willfulness, crying, defiance or denial does not stop the ball. If you stand in the way of the ball, BAM!, the ball hits you. You will not hit any balls if you stand there doing nothing. Ignoring the ball does not make it stop coming. Willingness is taking your best swing at the ball.

Life is like a game of cards
It makes no difference to a good card player what cards she is dealt. Her objective is to play each hand as well as possible. As soon as one hand is played, another hand is dealt. She puts the last game behind her and focuses on the current game. She is mindful to play the current hand the best she can. She knows that if she plays her cards skillfully, she is doing the best she can. She can only control what cards she plays, not the hand she is dealt or how the others play. When she plays her cards, she lets go of what she can not control. Win or lose, she accepts how the cards fall. When one game is over, she focuses on the next hand of cards.

How will you play the next hand life deals you? With acceptance of a tough reality? Turning your mind to how you can make the best of a tough situation? Willing to look for solutions? You can do it.

DBT LIFE SAVING SKILL (Part-2)

 


Have you ever wondered why some people get destroyed by suffering, and other people, when they suffer, they don't get destroyed. In fact, some people not only don't get destroyed by suffering, but they...they seem to become even stronger just by going through suffering. Have you ever thought about that?

RADICAL #ACCEPTANCE

Can you think of any really serious problems, really serious pain, serious traumas, things that make you really unhappy that you can't change?


What are your options? You can be miserable or you can accept the reality that you've got it. Maybe you've had a really painful childhood. You know, a lot of people have to live with that; you just have to live with the fact that those happy childhoods you see on tv aren't in your life and there's nothing you can do about it. Maybe you didn't get a job that you really wanted - there's nothing you can do about it.

These are just not the kind of things you can start being happy about. So what are your options? You can either be miserable or you can figure out a way to accept the reality of your own life.


So what's Radical Acceptance? What do I mean by the word 'radical'? Radical means complete and total. It's when you accept something from the depths of your soul. When you accept it in your mind, in your heart, and even with your body. It's total and complete.


When you've radically accepted something, you're not fighting it. It's when you stop fighting reality. That's what radical acceptance is.

The problem is, telling you what it is and telling you how to do it are two different things. Radical acceptance can't really be completely explained. Why not? Because it's something that is interior - it's something that goes on inside yourself. But all of us have experienced radical acceptance so what I want you to do right now is to try to focus in on sometime in your life when you've actually accepted something, radically - completely and totally.


Most people can find some place in their life where that's happened to them and where they've accepted it, and that's what I mean by radical acceptance.

You may have a lot of sadness. Acceptance often goes with a lot of sadness actually, but even though you've got sadness, there's a feeling like a burden's lifted. Usually if you've accepted, you feel, well, ready to move on with your life. Sort of feel free, ready to move. So that's what it feels like.


Let's keep going. Pain is pain. Suffering, agony, are pain plus non-acceptance. So if you take pain, add non-acceptance you end up with suffering. Radical acceptance transforms suffering into ordinary pain.


There are three parts to radical acceptance.

1. The first part is accepting that reality is what it is.
2. The second part is accepting that the event or situation causing you pain has a cause.

3. The third part is accepting life can be worth living even with painful events in it.


The wing of clear seeing is often described... as #mindfulness. This is the quality of awareness that recognizes exactly what is happening in our moment- to-moment experience. When we are mindful of fear, for instance, we are aware that our thoughts are racing, that our body feels tight and shaky, that we feel compelled to flee-and we recognize all this without trying to manage our experience in any way, without pulling away. Our attentive presence is unconditional and open-we are willing to be with whatever arises, even if we wish the pain would end or that we could be doing something else. That wish and that thought become part of what we are accepting. Because we are not tampering with our experience, mindfulness allows us to see life "as it is." This recognition of the truth of our experience is intrinsic to Radical Acceptance: We can't honestly accept an experience unless we see clearly what we are accepting.


The second wing of Radical Acceptance, #compassion, is our capacity to relate in a tender and sympathetic way to what we perceive. Instead of resisting our feelings of fear or grief, we embrace our pain with the kindness of a mother holding her child. Rather than judging or indulging our desire for attention or chocolate or sex, we regard our grasping with gentleness and care. Compassion honors our experience; it allows us to be intimate with the life of this moment as it is. Compassion makes our acceptance whole-hearted and complete.


Dialectical Behavior Therapy (Part-1)

 



Dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) is a type of cognitive behavioral therapy. ( DBT was developed in the late 1980s by Dr. Marsha Linehan and colleagues when they discovered that cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) alone did not work as well as expected in people with BPD )


Its main goals are to teach people how to live in the moment, cope healthily with stress, regulate emotions, and improve relationships with others.

DBT incorporates a philosophical process called dialectics. Dialectics is based on the concept that everything is composed of opposites and that change occurs when there is a "dialogue" between opposing forces, or in more academic terms—thesis, antithesis, and synthesis.


More specifically, dialectics makes three basic assumptions:


1. All things are interconnected.
2. Change is constant and inevitable.
3. Opposites can be integrated to form a closer approximation of the truth.


(Dialectical thinking refers to the ability to view issues from multiple perspectives and to arrive at the most economical and reasonable reconciliation of seemingly contradictory information and postures. )


DBT Skills training is made up of four modules: core mindfulness, distress tolerance, emotion regulation, and interpersonal effectiveness. They are designed to specifically assist individuals in better managing behaviors, emotions and thoughts. The intent is to help people who experience problems with anger or the expression of anger, episodic depression, irritability or anxiety, intense or chaotic relationships, impulsivity, stress and feelings of emptiness.


1. Core Mindfulness teaches a person how to focus their mind and attention.


2. Distress Tolerance develops acceptance of the current situation as well as crisis survival skills to decrease the likelihood of engaging in problematic behavior.


3. Emotion Regulation skills include learning to identify and label current emotions, identifying obstacles to changing emotions, reducing emotional reactivity, increasing positive emotions and changing emotions.


4. Interpersonal Effectiveness skills teach helpful strategies for asking for what one needs, saying no, and coping with interpersonal conflict.


Saturday, July 25, 2020



Some days you will be the
light for others, and some
days you will need some
light from them. As long
as there is light, there
is hope and there is
a way...

- Jennifer Gayle

मेघ आए


मेघ आए बड़े बन-ठन के, सँवर के ।

आगे-आगे नाचती-गाती बयार चली
दरवाजे-खिड़कियाँ खुलने लगीं गली-गली
पाहुन ज्यों आए हों गाँव में शहर के ।
मेघ आए बड़े बन-ठन के, सँवर के ।


पेड़ झुक झाँकने लगे गरदन उचकाए,
आंधी चली, धूल भागी घाघरा उठाये,
बाँकी चितवन उठा, नदी ठिठकी, घूंघट सरके।
मेघ आए बड़े बन-ठन के सँवर के।



बूढ़े पीपल ने आगे बढ़कर जुहार की,
‘बरस बाद सुधि लीन्हीं’ –
बोली अकुलाई लता ओट हो किवार की,
हरसाया ताल लाया पानी परात भर के।
मेघ आए बड़े बन-ठन के सँ वर के।



क्षितिज अटारी गहराई दामिनी दमकी,
‘क्षमा करो गाँठ खुल गई अब भरम की’,
बाँध टूटा झर-झर मिलन के अश्रु ढरके।
मेघ आए बड़े बन-ठन के सँवर के।


- सर्वेश्वरदयाल सक्सेना


( A thing that unites this country. The monsoon is right up there. We all collectively breathe a sigh of relief, we all look at the sky and smile, we all gear up for a little inconvenience, and we all enjoy it at its most beautiful.)

Welcome Monsoon to India.


Sunday, February 23, 2020

A Slumber did my Spirit Seal


A Slumber did my Spirit Seal

I had no human fears:

She seemed a thing that could not feel

The touch of earthly years.

No motion has she now, no force;


She neither hears nor sees;

Rolled round in earth's diurnal course,

With rocks, and stones, and trees.

By William Wordsworth

महज़ आठ पंक्तियों की कविता है : 'अ स्लम्बर डिड माय स्पिरिट सील'। ये आठ पंक्तियाँ नहीं आँसू की टप है। हम क्यों दुखी होते हैं, जब लोग मर जाते हैं ? क्योंकि अब हम दोबारा उन्हें देख नहीं सकेंगे इसीलिए। क्या हम किसी से घृणा कर सकते हैं,जब यह जान लें कि एक दिन हर कोई इस दोबारा न देखे जाने की ज़द में चला जाएगा ?

Sunday, February 2, 2020

प्रोलॉन्ग्ड ग्रीफ़ डिसॉर्डर



"समय सारे घाव भर देता है" --- घिसे हुए शब्दों का एक मलहम है। सच तो यह है कि समय सभी के सारे घाव नहीं भर सकता क्योंकि ऐसा करना उसके वश में ही नहीं।

संसार के सबसे बड़े कष्ट मृत्यु-कष्ट माने जाते हैं। स्वयं की आसन्न मृत्यु तो आमतौर पर कष्टप्रद होती ही है , परिजनों के लिए भी पीड़ा-प्रदायिनी बनकर प्रकट होती है। जो दुनिया छोड़ जाता है , वह तो रहता ही नहीं --- सो उसका कष्ट तो कट जाता है। किन्तु जो जाने वाले की यादों के साथ पीछे जीवित छूट जाते हैं , वे लम्बे समय तक कष्ट के साथ जीवित रहा करते हैं।

घनिष्ठ परिजन का मृत्युशोक बड़ा कष्ट है ; अँगरेज़ी में इसके लिए ग्रीफ शब्द का चलन है। ग्रीफ यानी ऐसा मृत्यु-शोक जो किसी ख़ास के लिए हो : वह जिसके जाने से लम्बे समय तक व्यक्ति का मन व्यथित रहा करे। जानकार बताते हैं कि औसतन प्रत्येक मृत्यु पर पाँच लोग मृत्युशोक मनाते हैं : यह संख्या न्यूनाधिक हो सकती है , लेकिन एवरेज यही है।

मृत्युशोक से पीड़ित व्यक्ति सामाजिक सम्पर्कों से कट जाता है। गहन रूप से सर्वदा दुःखग्रस्त रहते हुए अपनी सामाजिक भूमिका और उत्तरदायित्व से कटा एकाकी जीवन बिताने लगता है। समय बीतता है। इसके साथ ढेरों ( बल्कि अधिकांश ) अपने जीवन की खोयी पुरानी लय वापस पा लेते हैं , किन्तु फ़ीसदी के आसपास ऐसे रह जाते हैं , जो इस कष्ट से उबर ही नहीं पाते। कभी नहीं। कदापि नहीं। शारीरिक-मानसिक-सामाजिक रूप से ये लोग मृत्युशोक-तले अपना सम्पूर्ण जीवन निकाल दिया करते हैं।

मृत्युशोक किसे दीर्घकालिक कष्ट देगा और किसे सामान्य अल्पकालिक --- इसका निर्णय कैसे हो ? हर व्यक्ति निजी व सामाजिक तौर पर अलग-अलग तरह से किसी ख़ास परिजन की मृत्यु से समझौता करता है। व्यक्तिगत तौर पर इससे समझौता करने की सबसे अलग स्टाइल होती है , सबके पास भिन्न-भिन्न क़िस्म के संगी-साथी होते हैं। फिर यह भी महत्त्व है कि व्यक्ति का घरेलू और व्यावसायिक जीवन कैसा है और क्या उसके पास कोई और भावनात्मक निवेश लायक सम्बन्ध है अथवा नहीं।

सन् 2018 में विश्व-स्वास्थ्य-संगठन ने मानसिक रोगों की सूची में एक नये रोग को जगह दी। इसे प्रोलॉन्ग्ड ग्रीफ़ डिसॉर्डर ( दीर्घकालिक मृत्युशोक ) का नाम दिया गया और रोगों के अन्तरराष्ट्रीय वर्गीकरण आईसीडी 11 में इसका ज़िक्र है। यह वर्गीकरण स्वास्थ्य-तन्त्रों में सन् 2022 से लागू हो जाएगा। इसे डायग्नोज़ करने के लिए किसी व्यक्ति का अपने अंतरंग की मृत्यु के आधे साल बाद तक तीव्र भावनात्मक पीड़ा की अनुभूति होना और उसके कारण दैहिक-मानसिक-सामाजिक उत्तरदायित्वों को न निभा पाना शामिल है।

सामान्य मृत्युशोक और दीर्घकालिक मृत्युशोक में अन्तर है और इसे आम जन व मीडिया , दोनों को ठीक से समझने की ज़रूरत है। डॉक्टरों तक ने अनेक बार प्रोलॉन्ग्ड ग्रीफ़ डिसॉर्डर को डिप्रेशन मानकर उसका इलाज किया है , जो कि सही नहीं है। ज़ाहिर है जितना बेहतर इस रोग को सभी समझेंगे , उतना इससे मुकाबला कर सकेंगे। इसके उपचार में साइकोएजुकेशन की भूमिका बड़ी है। अनेक बार दीर्घकालिक मृत्युशोक झेलते लोग उन व्यक्तियों-जगहों-वस्तुओं बचते हैं , जिनके कारण उन्हें दिवंगत व्यक्ति की याद आती है। लेकिन उपचार के दौरान उन्हें इस पलायन की बजाय उसके लिए धीरे-धीरे तैयार किया जाता है। अतीत के कष्टों से जूझने के साथ ही उन्हें भविष्यगत योजनाओं के लिए भी नीतिगत सलाह दी जाती है।

जो किसी प्रियजन की मृत्यु से नहीं उबर पा रहा , उसे केवल समय के सहारे छोड़ना नादानी-नासमझी-निष्ठुरता है। समय के पास सारे ज़ख्मों को भरने का माद्दा नहीं है , समय नासूरों का इलाज करना नहीं जानता। उनके लिए मनोचिकित्सक की मदद लेनी हमेशा ज़रूरी होती है।

- डॉ.स्कंद शुक्ल

Sunday, January 12, 2020

36 Apps & Websites For Teaching Math Online



With the increasing popularity of STEM-focused learning more and more students are taking on more and more challenging math courses. However, for some students, the subject can present a real challenge; but knowing where to turn to for help can greatly mitigate the struggle and improve their understanding.
Here are 14 favorite online resources to help make math more approachable—and even fun—for students at all grade levels.
1. Khan Academy
Khan Academy is a completely free personalized learning resource with online courses, videos, and exercises. Students can complete daily reviews and keep track of their progress within the platform’s learning dashboard. The math tutorials are categorized by subject and by grade level for easy navigation and utilize specialized content—with the help of organizations like NASA, California Academy of Sciences, and The Museum of Modern Art—to bring the lessons to life.
What teachers love: Practice problems provide hints one step at a time, so students can get help when they’re stuck at a specific point, but don’t necessarily need help with the entire problem. This allows them to work things out for themselves and learn at their own pace.
Grade levels: K-12; secondary
2. YouTube University
Many students are already familiar with YouTube, but we’re guessing they don’t frequent the site’s University channel. The Mathematics playlist has more than 30 videos with problem-solving lessons and real-life examples of math in action. Students can also subscribe to individual courses, teachers, universities, and organizations—like Khan Academy—to get notifications when new math-related videos are posted.
What teachers love: YouTube is a familiar platform for students so it’s easy for them to search for the help they need. Plus, many of the videos are relatable and fun (check out Math Antics’ channel, for instance).
Grade levels: 10-12; secondary
3. IXL
While IXL is a subscription-based learning site, it does offer free daily math practice problems. Students can complete ten free questions (in each subject) per day and grow their math skills. The subscription membership includes unlimited practice questions, analytics, certificates, and personalized skill recommendations.
What teachers love: If a student gets a problem incorrect, the program shows all the steps to complete the problem so they can see where they went wrong and learn from their mistakes.
4. Math is Fun
Just as the name implies, Math is Fun aims to make math enjoyable and entertaining. The site uses puzzles, games, quizzes, worksheets, and a forum to help guide students through their learning.
What teachers love: The problems and solutions are all explained in simple language, making it easier for students to learn on their own without the necessity of an adult or teacher to “translate.”
Grade levels: K-12
5. Wolfram MathWorld
MathWorld is a free online resource for everything related to mathematics. The site includes interactive GIFs and demonstrations, downloadable notebooks, and “capsule summaries” for various math terms. Students can explore the more than 13,000 entries to strengthen their math foundation and build up their understanding.
What teachers love: The site allows older and more advanced students to really dig deep into mathematics, with topics and articles in several different math-related subjects for a variety of background and ability levels.
6. Art of Problem Solving
With the Art of Problem Solving, students have three different avenues to get help and resources related to math. The Online School is a gateway for students to enroll in additional math classes and AoPS’ Bookstore offers challenging, in-depth textbooks so students can further explore the subject.
What teachers love: Students can challenge themselves to dig deeper into the math subjects they find fascinating through moderated message boards, games, and articles.
Grade levels: 2-12
7. Desmos
Desmos is a free online graphing calculator that students can use to graph functions, plot data and evaluate equations. The site also includes math examples and even creative art—so students can get the most out of the calculator.
What teachers love: The website and program are extremely user-friendly, with an extensive help center; and with Desmos, families don’t have to worry about purchasing a pricey graphing calculator.
Grade levels: 6-12; secondary
8. Numberphile YouTube Channel
Grade levels: 6-12; secondary
9. edX
Grade levels: 6-12; secondary
10. MIT OpenCourseWare
Grade levels: 6-8
11. How To Learn Math (a free online Stanford University course)
Grade levels: 6-8
12. Mathplanet
Grade levels: 6-8
13. Illustrative Mathematics
Grade levels: 6-8
14. Adapted Mind
Grade levels: K-5
15. Zapzapmath
Zapzapmathis a game-based approach to learning math for K-5/ Elementary. It comes with a web dashboard that gives parents and teachers the opportunity to oversee each child’s progress individually. It also has over 150 math lessons to practice, with a fully developed comprehensive curriculum and a syllabus has been designed to incorporate Higher Order Thinking Skills in the fields of creation, evaluation and analysis. All of this combined into a game-based ecosystem of fun math learning for preschool, kindergarten and elementary students.
Grade levels: K-5
16. Arcademic Skill Builders
Free educational games for kids in K-8. Featuring multiplayer learning games, math games, language arts games, and more.
Grade levels: K-8
17. Buzzmath
Buzzmath is a way to practice your middle school math skills. It's fun, it has immediate detailed feedback and examples that allow you to progress at your own pace.
Grade levels: middle school
18. Matific
Matific offers games and activities for elementary and middle school aged students. There are two versions of the platform offering a "school" version that allows assignments to be made and a parent version providing math activities with increasing complexity.
Grade levels: elementary and middle school
19. Mathway
Mathway can help with any math problem from basic algebra to complex calculus.
20. MathDoku
MathDoku lets you enjoy millions of the latest Android apps, games, music, movies, TV, books, magazines & more on any device.
21. Middle School Math
With Middle School Math, students practice, predictably enough, middle school math skills. The app features a game-based approach, and a charming monkey to guide students along.
Grade levels: middle school
22. Sushi Monster
Sushi Monster! is a game to practice, reinforce, and extend math fact fluency.
23. Chalkboard Math
Chalkboard Math is for elementary school students in need of math practice in addition, subtraction, multiplication, and division.
Grade levels: elementary school
24. Reflex Student
Reflex helps grade 2-8 students to practice recall of math facts in all four operations.
Grade levels:2-8
25. Operation Math
Turning math drills into a game, Operation Math includes more than 100 times missions that help players learn addition, subtraction, multiplication and division.
26. Kahoot!
Practice skills, terms, and more in a game-based environment.
27. Calculator HD
Calculator HD combines the Standard & Scientific calculator, with several functionality options.|
28. BrainPOP
BrainPOP is an animated educational site for kids.
29. Fraction Calculator Plus
Easily add and subtract fractions with this free calculator.
30. Math & Science Tutor
Math and Science Tutor provides over 1500 video lessons in math, algebra, calculus, physics, chemistry, engineering, and statistics.
31. Learn K-6 Math & Reading
Adapted Mind has over 300,000 math problems for children in kindergarten through sixth grade.
Grade levels: K-6
32. Let's Rock Math
Let's Rock Math provides ad-free math videos for children in kindergarten through fifth grade.
Grade levels: K-5
33. Dragon Box
Dragon Box provides multiple apps for various ages to learn math in a fun way.
34. Free Graphing Calculator
A free, powerful, flexible graphing calculator.
35. Quizlet
Quizlet makes simple learning tools that let you study anything. Learn by flashcards, games, and other various learning tools.
36.Prodigy Math
Prodigy Math provides a fun way to learn math for children in the first grade through the eighth
Grade levels: 1-5